Do’s And Don’ts During A Divorce

  • DO check all social networking sites and consider shutting them down while the case is pending.
  • DO make provisions for your safety and that of your children, if there is a threat of violence.
  • DO inform your attorney of all relevant facts.
  • DO talk to your attorney about any pre-nups and post-nups that you have signed.
  • DO consider seeing a mental health professional if you feel you need help.
  • DO walk away from all arguments with your spouse
  • DO begin gathering documents early in the process, especially those necessary for your Inventory and Appraisement
  • DO attend the court-mandated parenting class.
  • DO complete all assignments from your attorney.
  • DO familiarize yourself with your financial estate.
  • DO speak to your children’s teachers and school counselors.
  • DO pay your bills.
  • DO pay your attorney fees!
  • DO consult with a tax professional or CPA.
  • DO start a list of fact witnesses for your lawyer.
  • DO listen to your attorney closely and follow her advice
  • DO be completely honest with your attorney, especially disclosing “bad facts.”
  • DO make sure your attorney knows about any criminal history
  • DO be on your best behavior during your divorce.
  • DO stop cursing in all forms, especially in texts and emails to your spouse
  • DO change passwords to your email and social media accounts, and any private bank accounts.
  • DO open a private bank account
  • DO act as if every conversation is being recorded
  • DO act as if everything you write down will be read by the judge
  • DO act as if every behavior is being observed and recorded by a private investigator
  • DO participate in your kids’ school and extracurricular activities, and make sure you are familiar with their teachers, doctors, babysitters, and other significant people in their lives.
  • DO participate in your kids’ doctor and dentist appointments.
  • DO NOT tap phones or record any conversations, unless you are a party to the conversation.
  • DO NOT install computer tracking software.
  • DO NOT install any tracking device on your spouse’s vehicle.
  • DO NOT violate any standing court order, temporary order, or injunction.
  • DO NOT transfer or withdraw large amounts of money after filing for divorce.
  • DO NOT shred or destroy any documents.
  • DO NOT change designations on insurance, retirement, or other estate documents.
  • DO NOT sell any property without the Court’s permission.
  • DO NOT take the kids out of school or enroll them in a new school.
  • DO NOT incur large or frivolous debts.
  • DO NOT share divorce documents with your kids
  • DO NOT discuss the issues involved in the divorce with your kids.
  • DO NOT start another romantic relationship
  • DO NOT discuss privileged information with anyone.
  • DO NOT forward your attorney’s emails to anyone.
  • DO NOT post anything about your divorce on any social networking site
  • DO NOT remove the kids from the state to change their residence
  • DO NOT open your spouse’s mail
  • DO NOT divert your spouse’s mail.
  • DO NOT check your spouse’s email
  • DO NOT hack into your spouse’s electronic accounts
  • DO NOT call CPS or the police without calling your attorney first
  • DO NOT expect that your divorce will be over with quickly or inexpensively.
  • DO NOT be rude to your spouse
  • DO NOT believe your spouse or any member of his family
  • DO NOT negotiate with your spouse or make deals with him/her without your attorney’s knowledge and approval.
  • DO NOT sign anything without your attorney
  • DO NOT be intimidated
  • DO NOT alienate or bad-mouth your spouse to the kids
  • DO NOT pay for plastic surgery or other luxury items
  • DO NOT write or send nasty emails or text messages
  • DO NOT take scandalous or provocative photos of yourself